Thanks for the pointers, and I fully accept that a separate battery powered/ pushbike lights/ led system would be better, and that the original 6v ac lights are crap. But, I just wanted to have some form of illumination if needed.
Anyway, my relay idea was great in theory but didn't work in practice....It hadn't dawned on me that the relay needed dc to function correctly!
So, I have just gone for a separate toggle switch for the rear light and the headlight is operated through the main switch. Not perfect but it does give me the option of just having the rear light on if I want - the rear light runs off the yellow wire. I did try and run the horn off that, but it didn't produce enough power.
All done now and working