Heh heh this is like mixing a band. Newbies will say, "I can't get the ------ loud enough." When you tell them to turn down the other instruments they just look at you like you're an idiot. It sounds to me like having your forks at full preload is making the chassis do odd things in regards to head angle and loading. Remember if one suspension isn't compressing the other will compress much further as the inertia of the frame tries to rotate around the axle of the wheel with the non compliant suspension. You should be bottoming out the front and rear occasionally, a couple times each loop and even if you're riding bunny sections you should bottom out on the loop trail if you're going at a good clip.. If you're not then you're not using all the travel you should. Too stiff forks will force the rear to compress more on hits and effectively increase the trail of the frame. that can lead to some very weird handling during transitions from one camber to another. Another thing that is common to a new rider is to have their bars too far back to slow the steering down or too far forward thinking it will hold the front end down on climbs. This is a largely personal preference setting but it is important because it affects your entire perception of the bike. Having the bars too far forward will cause you to compensate by sticking your can far back which works against you in a climb. Having them too far back causes you to stand up a bit too straight rolling your hips forward and messing up your ability apply force to the bars and pegs to control the bike. It takes some time to figure out the right position. When you ride with other more experienced riders look at their bikes and see how they are set up for your area. See if you can snag a putt on a few and get to feel how a suspension should work rather than go by just look. See if you can get a good trials tuner to work with you to get your bike set up. Just note that the best riders are not always the best wrench operators. Some of these guys can ride a trashcan through a section and still look like they're on a factory bike.
It's a learning process. It takes time so don't stress over it. Even after almost 30 years of doing this it still takes me about 3 months to where I feel properly adjusted to a new bike. And yes the phrasing is intentional as I have to settle into the bike as it is adjusted to my liking.