In the past Beta shocks had, I think, 31 stops out from fully bottomed. (Full clockwise) turn them out more and you ruined the shock. Start from full in and back out. As for wheelies it's just practice. Practice on a long uphill so you can recover by rolling off the throttle. Work your way to the flats. Of course I suck at wheelies so take my advice with a grain (ton) of salt.
As for setting up the suspension try to balance the behavior of the front and rear. Most newbies get unnerved by how soft the suspension is and crank up the preload. This makes the suspension non-compliant on small bumps and ruins the tracking in a typical lumpy section as the bike will bounce around rather than absorb and hold a line. Damping is very much personal preference. The guys who trick ride like it bouncy to move the wheels around and sacrifice the stability us lazy old farts require. So ride, adjust, ride again, adjust... When it works for you you'll know but take it in small adjustments proved out by riding what you intend to ride.